It takes literally 30 seconds to make someone’s day. So what then is our excuse for putting those we care about on the back burner, or somehow otherwise making them feel second rate? True, life gets busy and we tend to forget that those around us still need and deserve our presence.
Life is stressful enough without worrying if the apple of our eye or our family knows how much we truly appreciate and care for them. So then, what can we do daily to make them aware of our true intent and feelings for them? Enter mindfulness and presence to the rescue.
What does it mean to be mindful and present? It means taking the time out to put our phone down, turning off the television, not mentally crunching numbers or making lists of things we’ve left to do at the office, trust me when I tell you all that stuff will still be there. Your loved ones on the other hand may not. So it is vital to ensure they know how we feel each moment of every day before it is too late.
But, what do we do to find the time in our increasingly busy days? How can we take more time to be present with those we love? There are a ton of ways in reality, but here are a few just to get you started.
Simple Ways To Disconnect From Life & Be Present
- Turn off, Tune In, Try It: One of the easiest ways to clear time for those we love is to turn off the cell phones, computers, video games, and T.V.’s. I know it’s hard but I swear to you that you will not die, neither will the kids. We live in a world that is constantly in a state of go, go, go- but we need to remember to take even just one day, take off the work hat and put on the family hat. Be present with those we care for. Not only will they thank us, but your true self will also thank you. Self-Love & presence is just as important.
- Family Time: Maybe we can’t take a whole day together. If this is the case, then make an hour to talk or be together. Bring back the age-old family dinner hour. Sit at the kitchen table and talk to each other instead of sitting in front of the T.V. Better yet, throw out your T.V.-OK calm down and put down the pitchforks. Seriously, we’re bombarded with media from the moment we get up, take some time to decompress and remember reality is not pregnant housewives and the zombie apocalypse.
- Go for a walk, go to the park: Its ok to leave your house without having anywhere to be, I promise. Go for a walk with your loved ones or yourself (again, in self-love it is just as important to disconnect from life). Around the block or around town, it doesn’t matter where you walk, the trick is to be together.
- Daytripper: Get in the car, pick a direction out of town and get lost for a day. Doesn’t have to be a far or exotic destination you aim for. My grandparents were huge supporters of the old-fashioned Sunday drives. And some of my favorite memories are of those day trips. My grandpa used to insist that most people have never explored anything outside of their daily patterns and ho0w it was a sad way to live life. He believed it so much he rarely went the same way to get someplace twice. So get out there and explore your world.
The point is that it does not matter where you go or what you do, so much as who you do it with and why. Just a few minutes in the morning even can help ease any tensions or interpersonal conflicts. It can reestablish that loving bond that life tends to efface and wear down over time.
Connection to others is a deep human need wee all possess and is a vital part of a happy, healthy lifestyle. So what are you waiting for? There are no engraved invitations for the right moment and trust me, there’s never just going to be time- we have to make the time. There will always be something that needs to be done, but we need to make time for what’s most important in this life. Ourselves and each other are the single most important things we have in life, everything else is replaceable.
Be good to yourselves. Be good to each other. And be blessed you’re alive to have the things you have but be more grateful for those in your life that loved you even when you had nothing.