So you’ve made the decision to try and be more positive in your daily life. You’ve made a healthier plan complete with a healthier diet, a workout routine, you’ve even gotten a membership down at the local wellness clinic so you can take a yoga class twice a week. Good start!
But truly living positively take more than just eating right and exercising. It takes real dedication towards consciously changing the way we respond to outside stimulus. It takes a shift in perception in the core of who we are.
We have been programmed from birth that our emotions are due to external forces. Because something happened we are: angry, happy, sad, frustrated, etc. but this is about as true as a politician promising no new taxes for the working class.
We feel the way we feel because we allow ourselves to feel so. Our reactions to the happenings around us and our feelings are two of the only things we truly have any control over or say in. But, how do we master those emotions and reactions? When someone offends us, how do we remain open-minded and neutral in response?
We have to condition ourselves to a new way of living and thinking. It takes mindful practice to retrain ourselves to keep a positive smile on our face. And remember, just because we are positive does not mean we never get upset. It’s all in how you handle it.
Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow. -Helen Keller
being positive will not stop negative things from happening. However, it will change how you feel about them when they do happen. A positive outlook will aid in dealing with the negative things in life by making them less noticeable, and less catastrophic in nature when they do happen.
The more we look for the positive things in life, the more of them we will see. Inversely, if we spend all our time looking for the next negative thing to pop up it will also become all that we see. So training our attention is key here.
In order to carry a positive action, we must first develop here a positive vision. -Dalai Lama
So, how do we renegotiate with our preconceived notions that we should see things more positively? What can we do? I mean, we’ve only been this way since we were kids. So how do we unlearn one pattern of thinking and relearn another?
We need to find a way to let go of the past and let go of our attachment to controlling everything that happens to us and around us. But, how?
Like most things in life, or at least those things worth doing, it takes a conscious effort. But, not nearly as much as you may think. All it really takes is a notion that we redirect our thought pattern from one way of thinking to the next. We do this through being mindful of our own thoughts and owning our reactions to them.
By learning to identify our emotional reactions to things, we take away their power over our decisions. Thus, we can be more mindful of the actions we take. In other words, by owning our emotions and practicing good emotional IQ we retrieve some form of control from our emotions. We become able to release our attachments to them and hence, we can become more readily able to think positively and respond graciously.
By letting go of our attachment to the outcome and letting go of our reliance upon negative emotional responses, we create an environment of positivity to foster better thoughts and hence, correct our negative cycles of thought. We can become more positive. It only requires that we attempt to become so. Being mindful is the way to living a more positively charged life,
You can do it. I believe in you. Do you?