Once you have drank from the water of unconditional love, no other can satisfy your thirst. The pangs of separation may become so intense that seeking the affection of the Beloved becomes an obsession.
True unconditional love is an amazing force unlike any other.
There is no limit to what love will make you do. Seemingly impossible things get accomplished in its name. We may go to extremes never before imagined to be in its presence. At times we may do things completely out of our character just to stay close to our affection.
It can move us to change our habits, it can push us forward into unchartered territory in which we are vulnerable and out of control, yes, love will even make us turn on our closest friends if we feel that love is threatened by them.
However, once we have tasted the sweet nectar of true affection, no other elixir would do to sate our ravenous craving for good ole fashioned, concentrated and 100% pure amoré.
When we are in love, several things happen to our mind, body, and soul. Some of us might feel butterflies in our stomach, others will denote a warming glow radiating from our heart chakra’s
Finnish researchers wanted to know more about the effects of love on our bodies and minds; so, they did what was only logical. They asked people who were in love to describe their overall feelings regarding the effects of true love on their bodies.
Not surprisingly, most described their feelings of love as an overall warmth that radiated from their core and enveloped the full-length of their person. This warmth was indeed the major common factor amongst those interviewed.
But when researchers asked their subjects to identify and map out other common feelings such as sadness, anger, depression, and happiness with matching congruency as well.
Positive emotions like love and happiness were associated with warmth and appeared to flow easily and outward from the core of subjects. However, negative or hurtful emotions like anger, sadness, and insecurity were illustrated as cold, restrictive blue areas.
Those same people expressed their negative emotions in sad hues of blue and white and indicated a constricting inward pulling sensation instead of a free flowing outward warmth.
The researchers were astonished to notice that regardless of age, sex, or even cultural differences that the feelings subjects mapped out was in fact almost unanimously agreed upon.
There is one major similarity amongst all the bodily effects of real lasting love, however…
We all crave it. Why?
It doesn’t come as much of a surprise that strong loving emotions can be seriously intense on the human body. What was interesting was that the results were so unanimously agreed upon. Who would’ve known?
How about the effects of true love on our brains? Is it equally as uniform and across the board as the Finnish study of true love on the human body?
In another study, this time focusing instead on the effects of love on the mind. Participants in love were shown pictures of their sweetheart, and Neurospecialists discovered that feelings of love and affection generated activity from the area of the brain that controls “Motivation and Reward.
Even more interesting is that “True Love” activates the exact same part of our complex brains that also responds to drug addiction.
So, it would turn out that true love’s effect on the brain is very much akin to doing Heroin. Being in love certainly has it’s highs and lows and can cost you much more than the cost of that tiny bag of dust.
Moreover, another point to be made here is that if love and drugs affect the same part of the brain, generating similar activity that they will trigger the same long term side-effects as their counterparts.
One such mimicking side affect has definitely got to be the Hedonic Treadmill. Essentially, the hedonic treadmill theory in this instance would state that as we experience true love over a period of time, in order to maintain the levels of our pleasurable output and sensations, we must increase the dosage as we build a “tolerance” of sorts to love.
But ok, how exactly does one up the dosage on true love? Perhaps this is why things get tougher after the honeymoon phase of the relationship?
“For most people, the standard pattern is a gradual decline of passionate love, but a growth in bonding.”
-Arthur Aron, Psychologist at State University of New York at Stoney Brook
Aron continued, to explain that while mammals mate to procreate, most mammals do not stay together to raise the offspring. However, humans do. So, this addictive quality to love certainly serves a purpose since we not only mate to create future generations, but we actually stay together to raise those offspring as well.
The Suny@Stoney Brook Study indicated that love changes over time and that as long as love remains in the relationship and the couple gets used to the relationship, it prevents us from needing our fix to cure the love-jones.
So, next time someone suggests you love with all of your heart, be sure to tell them that the brain is the love center, not our fragile heart.